If You Love Somebody Set Them Free
If you love somebody, set them free. - Sting
Un-forgiveness is the kicker. It’s the thing that keeps you stuck, closed, and caged. We want to hold onto a particular relationship, our possessions, our jobs, or relive an aspect of a relationship from the past. Until we start to shine a light on that part of ourselves that wants to cling tightly to the past, we won’t ever release the emotional blocks.
Have you ever had to say, “ I loved you the best way I knew how to love you at that time I knew how to love.” ?
I had to, and then I had to move on. But when I went to move on, that story would still resurface from time to time. I would get my emotional buttons pushed. I was “triggered” as they say. Every time it came up, I would mentally rehearse the past. The internal reminder would say, “you idiot... you should have blah blah blah..” I would try and fight it. Sometimes I would be a martyr or a helpless victim in my brain. Every time I went back to dig up the dirt, I would just find unforgiveness there. Not for the other person, for myself. That’s what kept me stuck in a loop. Forgiveness and compassion allow you to detach.
I share this not to be dramatic on the internet, but after spending so much time recovering the relationship within myself, it’s become my deepest passion to give others the permission to love themselves. To slow down and say, “I no longer want this pattern to continue or define my identity.” It’s time to get to a place where you can have compassion for yourself, drop the past baggage, and move forward. That’s actual freedom.
What do you want and what’s been holding you back from it? What are you afraid to ask for?
I want to connect with you who really want to go deeper in recovery from harmful relationship patterns and find a sense of deeper, meaningful love. How can I support you ? What challenges are you facing in your relationship(s)?
I’m Aaron, a heart-Centered Life Coach. If this sounds like you. If you feel trapped in harmful relationship patterns and you want to find meaningful love, click “Work With Me” to apply and book a complimentary call. I’d love to know how I can support you.