The Art of Slowing Down with Eric DeLong
In this episode …
Aaron talks with his friend Eric DeLong, a Life Coach & Songwriter about how his practice of slowing down has impacted his life.
SHOW NOTES
:25 Aaron Talks
Do you feel so rushed, hurried, stress, anxious that you rarely find yourself enjoying much of anything..
One of my favorite ideas came from a book called “The One Thing” and it mentions how multi-tasking was a term invented for computers, not for humans….
Our culture and really our ego want to believe that we’re expected to be all places at all times for fear we might not be enough or might be missing out on something else.
But that’s not how we’re instead to function. We’re intended to function in the present moment.
This week I invited my friend and fellow Coach Eric DeLong about how you can create our own anxiety by being somewhere else other than where you are at right now.
Often we’re either ahead of ourselves worrying about the outcome or lingering in the past struggling to let go.
This is like adding more stress to stress and suck the enjoyment out of whats happening right in front of you, even if it’s what you said you wanted.
Eric shares his practice of slowing down, getting into your 5 senses, even if it’s just as simple as enjoy a cup of coffee you made.
And real quick before we launch into the interview, if you found yourself rethinking love or coming to a new awareness about love and relationships.. I’d love to hear about it. Please leave this podcast a review and share.. when you share your growth it not only helps you, but helps others.
3:30 min
Aaron introduces Eric.
Eric has a lot to his story… he’s been a pastor, been through divorce, been a musician, and had a lot of transformation since then.
4:30 min
Aaron asks Eric about the art of slowing down.
Eric explains that slowing down is about the present awareness. It’s helped him amongst the chaos of life and also helped him appreciate the beaut in life.
Eric stumbled upon this idea when he got divorce and it started with meditation.
6:20 min
Eric said he was so stressed that he started smell. Our senses are a sensual connection to the present moment.
7:50 min
Eric shares what that practice looks like in his daily life. The power of your sense brings you into the present moment.
A simple example is slowing down to enjoy food and coffee.
How often have you driven somewhere but forgot how you got there?
10 min
Eric takes this practice into other aspects in his life like taking walks and feeling into his body and listening to the sounds around him.
It’s about being where you are. It’s simple and brings out a lot of gratitude.
12 min
There’s a lot of components of slowing down, like allowing yourself a margin that suits you.
Eric talks about leaving margin of times to put you in a mind frame of responding, calm, and not reacting.
14:20 min
Aaron asks Eric a question, Eric has to think, but then Aaron reminds him that he’s free to slow down.
Aaron talks about how he was coached to come almost to a completely stop, a pause to get him out of a reactionary place and more into a responsive state.
15:20 min
Our response naturally is to be urgent, but Eric sometimes closes his eyes and asks himself how he is doing.
Sometimes you’ll be surprised at how you’re doing.
People appreciate a thoughtful response.
17 min
Aaron Talks about showing up and allowing yourself to be authentic in the present moment.
Sometimes its a reflection for others to take time to listen to themselves.
19 min
When you slow down you have more enjoyment for the moment.
There’s infinite moments in the world yet we’re appreciating this moment.
Eric talks about why it’s important like being on a date and enjoying the meal, and not getting caught up with the deadline like a movie.
When you’re not present you’re robbing yourself of the experience.
21:30 min
Maybe your just meant to enjoy and revel in the meal. If you’re rushed and hurried you’re not going to enjoy the moments for its fullest potential.
Aaron uses Eric’s remarks as an analogy for relationships and how we get ahead of ourselves in relationships instead of enjoy where you’re at.
23:40 min
Aaron asks Eric if this has effected his creative writing process in music. Eric enjoyed the process.
Eric says so often we try to get to the outcome, but Eckhart Tolle talks about being in the process.
25:30 min
Eric talks about not getting ahead of himself in the writing process and not going back to old writing patterns.
Eric has a song about feeling younger as you get older.
27 min
Eric said he wouldn’t have made his most favorite song, if he hadn’t slowed down.
Eric asks himself, “Whats coming up for me right now?”
Eric is about to put out some new music.
You can follow Eric on instagram.com/ericdelongmusic
28 min
Eric’s last thoughts are to slow down and connect with your senses. Instead of doing things to get where you’re going, do things to enjoy where you are.
Aaron says it can lower so much stress and anxiety.
Now we’re going to step into the goodness of Thai Food.
29:20 Closing
Thanks for listening.
Eric helps recovering nice people speak their needs, own their wants and live their truth. If you’d like to connect with Eric for coaching, or be the first to hear his new music.. follow him on instagram.com/ericdelongmusic
If you are feeling hurt, heartbroken and would like to claim your self-worth, stop harmful relationship patterns, Love yourself, and find confidence and independence.. I’d love to support you.. you can connect with me thekindoflove.com or
instagram.com/aarontosti
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I’m Aaron
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