What Healthy Feminine and Masculine Energy Looks Like with Lindsley Brooks

Aaron Talks with friend and guest Lindsley Brooks about sex, intimacy, and what healthy feminine and masculine energy looks like in a conscious relationship.

Show Outline

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Have you ever been frustrated about patterns that continue to resurface and repeat?  Either in a relationship with your yourself or with a partner? Do you want more trust and intimacy and connection with the people in your life? 

We continue in this part 2 on the mind body and spirit connect conversation. I have my friend Lindsley Brooke’s who is an energy healer and Intuitive Counselor. 

The word toxic gets thrown around a lot in relationships. It’s really about healthy or unhealthy relationship decisions that are being made, unhealthy or healthy responses. I asked Lindsley if we could look deeper into what unhealthy masculinity and femininity actually looks like. Often our culture personifies masculine only being male, or feminine energy only being female. But everyone, whatever your energy is has masculine and feminine energy. 

What does that look like? How do they show up in the body ? How do we listen to our body so we respond in a healthy loving way in our relationships? Instead of a toxic or unhealthy response. 

2:00 min

When you have trauma in the body that effects sexual intimacy. 

Women who don’t want anything to do with sex. Trauma affects your ability to be intimacy. 

The very thing you need to do is to understand and access the body. 

5:00 min

How do we overcome these things?

Either you’re scared to get physically close with someone, OR you’ve had it so good with someone else, you’ve got PTSD that you may not ever have it that good again.

7:00 min

Common denominator is trust and context. 

You’re body has a wisdom and intelligence that bypasses the brain. 

There was a sense of emotional safety. The same part of the brain thats connected to trauma is also connected to pleasure. What is the best case scenario to good sex. And what environment causes you to shut down. 

If shut off or de-compartmentalize your body, you’re shutting off the pleasure as well. 

8 min

You’re going to have to dig up some stuff. 

What can I do to feel safe and be curious enough. 

Lindsley said she didn’t feel safe to talk about her emotions outside of the bedroom, so thats going to show up in the bedroom too. 

8:55 min

Men want to connect through the physical. 

Women want to have a emotional connection first. 

Get curious on why one scenario is was good and why the other had you shut down. 

It’s telling you that you don’t feel safe enough. 

 10:30 min

Aaron asks are you creating trauma when you go through a post hook up phase.

Lindsley was noting at conscious sexuality. 

There are physical longing and desires.

You’re intention is looking for approval  or a need to feel whole. Thats self medicating. And you’re using someone else body to do that. 

12:25 min

Masculine and Femine Devine energy.

How do you know when you’re being toxic or your partner is being toxic. How do we see toxic feminine and masculine and separate it from gender roles ?

13:50 min

Our culture is in a toxic masculine or patriarchal. Something is about out of balance. 

Its not specific to gender.

Toxic masculinity is overpowering, control, war and dominant.

Toxic Feminity, is the opposite. Not having any control over yourself and being small. 

15:50 min

Relationship stage is we are letting go of gender roles. The roles are shifting. Fathers get to be emotionally involved. Sometimes Female is the bread winner.

18:55 min

What does healthy masculine and feminine energy look like ?

When your anger is out of balanced.  

20:50 min

Lindsly says Aaron’s in his healthy  feminine masculine a coach.  

It’s constantly happen. Emotions intuition, beauty, trust, art, the body, 

intellect, holding space, speaking up is masculine. 

20:50 min

Bringing more awareness to feminine and masculine energy.

23:50 min

The ego is so caught up in what it looks like. 

26:30 min

Becoming more conscious about how my body works. 

28 min

You’re relationship and your sex is going to get better the more connect you are with your body. Breathe work, yoga, meditation are going to be great for releasing stagnant energy.