Sobriety: A Portal to Becoming Human Again (Tracy's Story)

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In this episode, Aaron talks with his cousin Tracy-Rose, a therapy informed Intuitive & Spiritual Mentor, who tells her story of being humanized again after choosing sobriety.

Show Notes

00:24 min  

Aaron Talks 

Hey, welcome back. Here we go. This is the thing. Have you struggled with coping mechanisms to just get by in life. Have you been able to a way out of that coping mechanism into a state of empowerment and choice? Have you validated yourself to step through the hardships and the pain that life has. 

My cousin Tracy-Rose has been so kind as to join for the last two episodes. Hopefully you caught the first one. This is part two where we're going to hear more about her story. She Overcame a moment when she had a choice to continue to suffer and continue to feel isolated and go back to harmful patterns. But, She choose differently. 

Tracy is a therapy informed intuitive mentor. I love her story because we talk about the low moments when we are on the verge of being small, feeling insignificant and going back to old patterns that reinforce the belief that we're small. It puts us in a victim state. But we always have a choice to make things better. 

Often we get comfortable in the chaos of our life. It's a survival mode. And that becomes the norm. It's interesting that in Tracy's story she learned to live in the chaos, to where living in peace was uncomfortable.

So here we go, a conversation between two cousins talking about loving yourself better, being empowered to make a choice, to authenticate yourself, and learn from your experiences.   

2:40 min

• Tracy feels uncomfortable with peace

• Being the perpetuator of the wound and having Peter Pan syndrome

• If it was healthy Tracy didn’t want. Tracy didn’t know how to trust peace.

• breaking down to break through

• Tracy was facing going to prison and that was going to be her life

• Spiritual awaking, surrendering to death or surrendering to life.

• In Jail you loose your identity you become a number

6:45 min

• Tracy spent 3 months in county jail, cried and wrote letters to people she hurt

• Jail was a big mirror

• Standing in front of the judge Tracy said, “Just give me the time.” And by some form of her higher, humble self asked, “Don’t you rehabilitate.”

9:10 min  

• going through hoops

• Tracy wanted out of torture, despair, suicidal ideation.

10:25 min

• Tracy grew up with the idea that “Rehab is for sissies”

• Woman’s meeting at rehab Tracy felt humanized again

• Life is bittersweet

13:45 min

• choosing to fight for yourself instead of against yourself

• Loving yourself just happened for Tracy in the last couple of years

• Not getting into the shame spiral

• Punishing yourself for trying to survive

16:00 min

• Tracy arrived at “whatever is meant for me, will be for me.”

• Living in uncertainty

• Lesson of intuitively knowing how to handle situations

• Lesson 2 is learning to live with unresolved issues

18:25 min

• We’re an impatient society, needing to be validated externally

• the only one who can authentic and validate yourself is you

• Parents and Caregivers are just doing their best

20:25 min 

• Tracy talks about creating a safe place for her son to feel all of his emotions

• It takes knowing all your emotions first, children can be beautiful mirrors walking around

22:20 min

• learning to not project

• Aaron talks about neglecting vital things like water

• learning to detach, non attachment

• Attachment styles, put down what your doing and go learn yourself

25:25 min 

• neglecting avoiding self

• Primary core wounds

• Self-punishment, & shame spiral

• Can i just be with myself right now

• The power of being alone. Are we ever alone if we have ourselves ?

• opening questions about God

27:35 the humble / confident place

• Authenticity is a journey

• appreciate you seeing what i see in myself, the also

• And also, Compliments are humanizing, it doesn’t fill a lack, it adds

31:00 min 

• compliments can be toxic, like

• Other people’s Words are spells

• The unhealthy receiving a compliment,

• Salve of the Circle, i needed to someone else could make it so that i know that i can make it through

34:20 min 

• Community is necessary “I need to know you made it through it

• the elder reaching back to you reaching back to a child

• Finding safety with women

 38:45 min Aaron Talks

Hey thanks so much for listening in TKOL podcast. I’d love it if you would leave a review. Did you Connect with this podcast episode did you connect with Tracy’s story ? Have you been stuck in a pattern and needed to make a different choice, an empowered choice? 

If you’ve been struggling in harmful relationship patterns and you’re looking for a coach to help you move past and future in your life I’d love to connect with you you go to thekindoflove.com or you can follow me on Instagram and direct message me @aarontosti

You could also connect with Tracy-Rose, @salveofthecircle on Instagram. 

Often times it’s trusting someone with your story. It’s letting someone hold a space or the container or the room for you to really hear you and what’s going on in your life. That can be so transformational. Feel free to reach out to either one of us.

Thank you again for listening to TKOL Podcast.

I’m Aaron. Best of love to you.